The Amateur Theologian: Swearing


I have a like/hate relationship with swearing.

Sometimes it just feels so d@mned appropriate. On the other hand, really hate hearing my kids cuss because it’s an in-your-face reminder of just how f#ck!n8 offensive it its.

Oh, and good little Jesus-Disciples aren’t supposed to swear.

Although, I know many who do.


  • Back in the day, I ran with a Christian crowd who declared a “spiritual gift of swearing” an essential part of authenticity.
  • There’s a host of Christian bloggers who regularly swear in their posts for the same reason.
  • A youth pastor friend says he thinks swearing is fine as long as the context is correct.

Are they right?


What about substitute swear words?
Are they OK?

  • Why is a$$ho!e a swearword but jackass is OK? The nuns back in Catholic school had no issue using this moniker for unruly students.
  • Saying, “Well, $h!t” is offensive, but “Well, poo-pee-doo” is fine and even sort of cute?
  • In Ant Man (fun flick!) the main character calls someone an “a$$-hat.” When his ex-wife chastises him, he defends, “I said ‘hat!’” The audience predictably chuckles at the situation, agreeing that “hat” makes the term harmless.


All this to say, I couldn’t decide how I felt about swearing,
so it was time to turn to the Bible.


Ephesians 4.29 meme

OK, we should only use language that is helpful for others. Can swear words be helpful?

Let’s say a friend is sharing the guilt they carry over being molested by a family member as a child, because they never fought. My response is to say they have nothing to feel guilty about, because their perpetrator was a rat b@st@rd who deserves to rot in H3ll for what they did. Isn’t this helpful for building the victim up and the use of expletives appropriate emphasis of my point?


Colossians 3.8 meme


No “dirty” talk. Gotcha. Do swear words qualify as this, or is Paul talking about crude jokes, foolish talk, gossip, etc.? Because later in the chapter he specifically references the latter:

Ephesians 5.4 Meme

If I only went off of these verses (and others with “swear” synonyms), I could argue that my youth pastor friend is right: expletives are fine, even appropriate, in the proper context. Except for one thing:

When filled with The Holy Spirit
you find yourself giving up things that
may be technically OK
in lieu of something more important: love.

In Christ, it’s no longer important that I fight for my rights or defend a way I want to talk; I now live to serve others.

1 Corinthains 10.23.24 meme

Paul then says we shouldn’t do anything that hurts another person’s conscious. He’s addressing meat offered to idols, but the concept applies as we see later in the chapter:

1 Corinthains 10.31.33 meem

Because my primary objective is to actively love others, I want to make sure nothing I do or say is offending* anyone inside or outside of the churchand swearing is often offensive.

The second reason I want to clean up my vocabulary
is found earlier in 1Corinthians.


Paul is talking about sexual immorality but, again, the concept applies. I don’t want swearing to master me, and when I swear out of emotion, it does. I don’t want to be a slave to anything but Christ!

Not only this, but I think swearing
is an etymological cop out.

The English language has so many wonderful, rich words in its vocabulary; why would I debase myself by using expletives?

Going back to the example of the friend who was abused by a relative: which is more profound and builds them up?

  • Calling the perpetrator foul names
  • Saying, “It was their brokenness and the fact that they chose violence to address it that is responsible for what happened. They made a horrible, ignorant choice and carry all the blame. Maybe there are reasons for what they did (past abuse of their own, etc.) but there are no excuses. You are in no way responsible for what they did to you.”

In my experience, when I have needed comfort or support after being hurt by another person, thoughtful words, not swearing, did the trick.

So, I can swear, and it sure feels good sometimes,
but I’ve decided – after lots of contemplation –
to abstain.

No Swearing

To try, anyhow. I want to be sensitive to others feelings, have control when I’m emotional, and not be a hindrance to real, intelligent communication (which means the synonyms are bye-bye, too as this is the very definition of hair splitting. My mom believes that any word said in anger is swearing because the real issue was that you lost your temper).

And by the way, I know plenty of people who aren’t Christians who feel the same way about it!

But, hey, that’s me. What do you think about swearing?

*This is in reference to my behavior, not my opinions or beliefs. After all, when Jesus shared truth he offended loads of people!

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4 Responses to The Amateur Theologian: Swearing

  1. Jody McClellan says:

    Thanks Jamie for your thoughtful words. I miss seeing you and hearing these words in person!
    In trying to follow God’s Big 10, I have tried to adhere to not using His name in vain, even when substitutes like “son of a …” come to mind.
    2 stories: 1. a friend of mine at a baseball game kept hearing Jesus’s name mentioned by one fan. She turned to him and said “oh, do you know him, too? He’s my Lord and Savior.”
    2. after moving to Denver 27 years ago, our new real estate agent became a friend. While riding as a passenger in her car with her 2 girls in the back seat, we narrowly missed being in a serious accident. I turned to check on her traumatized daughters and after she regained her composure, she asked, “….I never hear you swear, why didn’t you swear just now?”
    I gave her my reason as being my faith in Jesus Christ and that I say a prayer to Him when tempted to say something else. After more conversations, we found a Bible Study Fellowship group near her home that would also be sensitive to her Roman Catholic upbringing. She later began walking with Jesus as her Savior and Lord.

    • LASM says:

      Jody, what wonderful stories! The second one is both powerful and convicting. It shows that we never know how our actions can influence and witness to people. Thank you SO much for sharing! (P.S. I miss you, too!)

  2. Jan MacClary says:

    I really liked this, Jamie. I loved how you used the Word, which is convicting and straightforward. I appreciate you!

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